Some time ago, I stumbled upon these articles: No, I Don't Have To Tell You I'm Trans Before Dating You and Yes, You Absolutely Need To Tell Someone You're Trans Before Dating. As I read both articles and comments, I noticed something. It seemed to me that romantic relationships and sex were being viewed casual. Disclaimer: I'm …

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Introversion and Extroversion: It’s Not a Hierarchy

Let me say it again, introversion and extraversion is not a hierarchy. Nor is it a foot race. Being an extrovert does NOT mean you "leveled up" in life and it doesn't mean that being an introvert equates you to being "less than" or "not good enough". Being an ambivert (introvert/extrovert combo) doesn't make you …

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Dear White friends with fingers in their ears…

Are you awake yet? Look at what's happened in Charlottesville. Read the articles. Watch the videos. Look at the photos. Don't scroll. Pay attention. Are you finally hearing what Black people have been saying for decades? Racism and white supremacy is still alive and active. It hasn't "taken a break" at any point in time. I …

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“Just friends” or “not getting things quite right”?

I was watching a YouTube video from SoulPancake that asks the age-old question: "Can women and men really just be good friends?" As in platonic. No develops crushes, feelings, romantic thoughts. No intentions of pursuing a romantic relationship. No sex. No kissing. No "amorous hugs". (And assuming that both people are straight and unmarried.) I say they …

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